Monthly Archives: March 2014

On the Countryside

A beautiful pathway down the country side
strewn with pine trees all around
I was mesmerised by its enchanting beauty
serenity and tranquility gave me kinda joy

Everyday we walked through the pathway
early morn and at six in the evening
the tweets and flutters I loved to see
it was a house to wide flock of birds

the hush greenery was captivating
my lens captured vivid images
memories which I can always cherish
our journey destined for a week

heavy heart I bid adieu to wonderland
painted forever in our hearts
lest we may come back soon
see these jewels on earth again<br /

free verse

© jayashree. 

3 Things You can do to help yourself when experiencing tough times (Guest Post by Vatsala Shukla)

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I met Vatsala Shukla during scavanger hunt and we traded posts. Today, is her guest post to help oneself during tough times. A handy post for all of us.

3 Things You can do to help yourself when experiencing tough times

By: Vatsala Shukla

Tough times arrive unannounced and while people may sympathize with you, they cannot give you a magic pill to swallow and make it go away.  The definition of a tough time can differ from person to person. It can take the form of a job loss, a new baby with no immediate support from relatives and other children at home, bereavement, going through a divorce and a whole lot of other stressful life situations that we may not be prepared for.

Your ability to cope with a tough time comes down to resilience and your basic nature. However, there are 3 things that anyone can do to be self-supportive and ride out the time knowing that this too shall pass.

  1. Acceptance

The first and most important step is to accept the situation. This means not trying to deny it or run away from it just accepting that yes, you have a situation on hand and that you need to do something about it. It means acknowledging and feeling your feelings. It is only when we accept a situation that we can start to change it or at least start to focus our energies in a positive way to take corrective actions.

For example, if you are working in an organization where they are planning to cut jobs or you have already gotten a hint that your job is on the line, acceptance helps to create space for what positive actions you can take, some of which will include updating your resume and circulating it, finding out more about your severance package, asking HR to help provide leads or referrals to other organizations and even mobilizing your network.

2.Put the problem in correct perspective

Ask yourself, are you by any chance magnifying the problem? Is it a catastrophe or an inconvenience? We often tend to magnify the problem forgetting that we might actually have the power to do something about it.

My favorite self-talk question which serves as a Litmus Test is to ask myself, “What is the worst thing that can happen?” Usually it is something where I will still have some control over the outcome of the situation. Continuing from the example I gave, the worst case scenario is losing the job, not the end of the world and it is an area where you can take action to find a job before you lose the job.

3.Ask for help

This step can be difficult for some people, especially those whose self-perception is one of being completely self-reliant or whose self-respect stops them from asking for help. Others may have gone through your situation and could possibly be in a good position to guide you if not to provide the immediate assistance that you require.

When asking for help, be direct and let others know what you really need help with and what you don’t. Help can come in many forms – from family members, colleagues, from support groups and even from your Higher Self!

Choose whom you wish to seek help from. Sometimes your immediate circle may not be equipped to handle what you are going through, in which case seek the help of your family doctor, a coach, counselor or who you think can help you.

Bonus Tip: Avoid toxic people or those that will criticize or put you down. When we go through tough times, we tend to be vulnerable and need to surround ourselves with people who will bolster our confidence, not drag us further into the vortex of fear, depression and anxiety that we are trying to avoid.

Tough times can also be periods of great learning and the experience can build our resilience for other challenges that Life will show us. There is much depth in the saying “Tough times never last, but tough people do”. Know that this too shall pass and if you take the right steps and actions, you will ride out the storm.

Have you ever had to overcome a tough time? What actions did you take?

About Vatsala Shukla

Vatsala Shukla, a student of Life, is an FCA from ICAEW, a Certified LIFE Coach and Master SPIRIT LIFE Coach focusing on results-oriented mid-career professional who know that they have what it takes and yet experience the unbearable pain of a stagnant career and want to take charge of their careers without compromising their work life balance. She calls her practice Karmic Ally Coaching and her career coaching programs incorporate her 25 years of international experience working for global majors as well visualization techniques and Chakra balancing exercises to facilitate whole transformation in her clients. Vatsala shares many of her exercises and techniques at her blog The Karmic Ally Coaching Experience Blog.

Links: Website: http://karmicallycoaching.com

           Blog: http://karmicallycoaching.com/blog/

 

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Life is a journey
worth living
Obstacles come
face the fear
Then it will
wither and move

The first step
child moves
amidst struggles
A hundred times
it knocks down
But persists it’s path

Pumpkin Seed and Honey Bread…

bread I have been perfecting this bread recipe for years (and still feel it needs a few more tweaks) but decided this gem shouldn’t just be kept to the confines of my recipe book.  I wanted this super simple yet delicious recipe to reach out to the masses; all of you who thought bread making should be left to the professionals or a bread making machine, think again!  Be the professional; be the master of your own bread!

Bread to me is an art form.  It’s subjective, and as long as the end result is somewhat bread-like and has a ‘hollow sounding bottom’ then it’s bread.  Like art, bread comes in many different forms and can be criticised by everyone, from under-proving to over-baking, and this might be what puts the average person off baking bread.  However, if you follow my simple steps, not only will you be happy with the…

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My first guest post

Dear bloggers,

My article “Benefits of Meditation” has been posted on karmically.blogspot.in

Its my first guest post and really happy about it. Thanyou Vatsala Shukla. I met her during the hunt and soon we were discussing of exchanging our posts. It was really nice of you.

The link is here:

http://karmically.blogspot.in?2014/03/guest-post-benefits-of-meditation.html

Kindly read my post and appreciate your comment

Love yourself

      Each day, we rise, so many duties await us. We feel as if  we are bound by them. Children have their own demands, hubby needs something to be done and it’s long been pending and the neighbouring aunty has asked you to help her, to which you could not refuse and your sister-in-law is visiting with her family. A lot of preparations to be done. 

        Amidst all these there are other issues pondering in the mind. The school fees has to be paid, bills are overdue and the like. Well, amidst all these, when you are taking  each challenge that comes your way,appreciate yourself. Feel good that you are trying to prove your worth. The ups and downs of life are all persistent, but we should learn to know our capabilities and try to get more done within the time that we have.

      Life is more worth when you try to appreciate it. Keep yourself busy in what you are interested. It really makes us feel good. We will be proud of what we are capable of doing rather than feeling bad of what cannot be done.

       Spend sometime for yourself. Your well being is of utmost importance. Being well dressed,even while at home is one of the ways that you can feel good about yourself. 

It’s good to be humble

It was a sunny day of April last year. All the children were playing in the ground near the park. Suddenly, a few gangster boys came and pushed away all the little kids away. They acted as if they were the owners of that place or they were only destined to play. They could have asked these in a more humble manner, informing them a little earlier, that they had to vacate for them to play. The children, did find another place to play, but I did not like the atrocity showed by these older boys.

One needs to be humble and a good person. He needs to be a leader in the right way. They should try to maintain good relations and harmony with fellow people.